When we  emigrate to a new country, we do not typically think about how to deal with our aging parents and other family members back home in your native country. I am sitting in a tram in Helsinki on my way to my wife’s mother who has been very illa for quite a while. How does one support the family if the travel takes 18 hours one way? How does one take the message when getting a call in the middle of the night that somebody has passed away like we did when my wife’s dad passed away 5 years ago? We do feel helpless and powerless and no money on this earth will make that better as money cannot buy precense, money can buy help that has nothing to do with love or passion for a person.